My toddler, a son, has gone through periods of separation anxiety. When before he could walk, he would have periods of “mommy, mommy, mommy!” where nothing would work except for mommy. Even my husband wasn’t good enough.
It was tough to make things work in the home, especially when I couldn’t even go have a brief shower without a meltdown. When I got pregnant, nothing happened. But in the last 6 to 8 weeks of my pregnancy, my belly got really big – and my toddler got really clingy.
Whenever I would talk to people about it, they would say, “oh yeah, he totally knows something is coming” and “he knows that he won’t be alone soon.”
I’m not so sure I agree with the latter point, but he probably knows something is changing in his life. He knows that mommy’s belly is so big that he can’t get close anymore. He also knows that mommy can’t pick him up as she used to do. In fact, mommy is just more distant (more so to protect the belly, nothing against him!)
So, is this normal? Throughout my obsessive Googling on the topic, I could find nothing to indicate that separation anxiety was normal during a second pregnancy. I also couldn’t really find a certain period around 2 1/2 years that hints of a leap of some kind.
Stanford Children’s Health reveals that separation anxiety is very common in shorter spurts between the ages of 18 months and 3 years old. 6 to 8 weeks doesn’t seem like a shorter spurt.
Oddly enough, this morning, the day before the scheduled c-section, he seemed completely fine. He didn’t rush to my bedside when he woke up. When my husband asked if he wanted mommy to give him breakfast, he said “no mommy breakfast” and insisted to eat it himself.
Right now, he seems to be thriving without mommy and daddy at my parents’ house, but let’s see if the separation anxiety goes away once the baby arrives.